So…Now What?

A few weeks ago I shared with you about our major change in our journey.  The support and response from all of you was overwhelming, inspiring and humbling.

I so wish I felt like I could have shared about all the challenges we were going through while we “in it” since there seems to be so many of you who can relate.  So many of you gave us confidence knowing that you too had taken a similar road and it landed you in a happier place.

Thank you.

softball allstars

Many of you asked us to continue to share what was next and what we were doing.  And we are ALL waiting for Dana himself to share around here (hint, hint dear!).  So I thought I would take some time today to share where we are at this point.

The month of June was a whole lot of start and stop.  Dana was technically still employed by his company, but they were transitioning him out.  That meant a mix of being in the office and being at home.

And then we went right into all-star softball games.  As an FYI, our girl’s team made it two more rounds and lost to an extremely strong team.  The community support was amazing and everyone was just so excited for the coaches, girls and families.  This was the furthest any team, softball or baseball, had ever made it from our Little League organization.  It was a great experience but seriously practically a full time job.  I do not know how the families do it that are “still going”!

softball championships

We finished up with that and went right up to New Hampshire for Dana’s 25th high school reunion.  I can’t even believe I just typed those words because I am pretty sure we are still 20 and in college.

high school reunion

And now we are home, ready to enjoy some down time and get ready to head to the Haven Conference.  I am bringing my whole crew – whether they like it or not!  Actually, Peanut’s and Dana’s birthdays fall right in the middle of the conference so I am forcing bringing them with me and making it a mini-vacation.  I can not be away from my girl on her birthday!

Then, from there we will take our true family vacation in August – heading to North Carolina for the first time for some beach loving.  My parent’s place in LBI is still not recovered from Sandy, so we are making the best of it and going to a new place.

Since there is still so much I don’t know, I thought I would focus once again on what I do know…

What I know…

  • Watching Dana during the three day extravaganza of his reunion was amazing.  It was the old “Dana”.  He reconnected with friends and people he realized meant a lot to him.  We drove a lot of country roads and fell in love with NH all over again.


mt. ascutney
  • Every time we head up there we come home questioning why we don’t live there or somewhere in New England.  But I am going with my “inner signs”.  If ever there was a specific “reason” to move, we would consider it.  But, for now we are working on making our life work here.  Life here works for us.
  • I am feeling unnerved and confused.  The whole structure of my everyday has changed.  Summer days used to be built around when “Dad got home from work”.  I am feeling pulled in a lot of directions and trying to balance things as best as possible but I am fully aware I am not getting in right each time.  I am going to have to figure out how to make it work for me.
  • I am thankful for this time and the girl’s are loving having time with their Dad.  Right now they are watching the All-Stars and playing Rummy.  Does it get better than that?
  • I am still okay with not knowing what is next.  Not everyone around us is as comfortable with that and that is okay too.
  • I haven’t done a load of laundry in weeks!  While all other chores (okay, he is cooking more too) are shared, he has taken on laundry like a champ.  I have even taken to calling him “Doctor Laundry”.
  • I really feared these first weeks would be hard.  He really is okay.  He really feels confident in his decision and is not questioning it.  That is what I prayed for the most and I am so thankful.

So that is where we are at.  I will do my best to share as we move into the next stages, but for now, we are focusing on enjoying summer and getting some projects done. You can follow us throughout our summer on Instagram at LPatFindingHome.

Thanks, as always for reading and wishing you a great day.


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20 thoughts on “So…Now What?”


  1. I made that leap 2 years ago…with no planning other than knowing it was the right thing to do. It put a big financial strain on us…still is…but I wouldn’t trade being home and blogging for the world. I’m a happier more fulfilled person. And my family is better for it.

    It is hard to figure out how to make a day happen when you’re used to one routine for so long. I’m still figuring it out. 🙂

    Enjoy your summer together! And have a great vacation.

    I’m excited for y’all and look forward to following along on your journey. I will keep you in my prayers!

  2. It’s nice to hear that you and your family are enjoying this part of your journey thus far. Summer is a great time for making this adjustment when your children are home and they can enjoy their dad more. I hope you have a wonderful rest of the summer and a great vacation in North Carolina. Blessings. Pamela

  3. Thank you for updating us Laura, I love seeing the photos too…the word ‘lighter’ comes to mind.
    My husband’s job took an unexpected turn last November, the change left him with less pressure and I’m amazed at the difference in his demeanor. I say prayers for you and yours often and will continue to ask the Father to bring you peace and show all of you the next right thing to do.
    We live in metro Atlanta (about 20 minutes from the Haven hotel 🙂 ) and my hubby will be going back and forth between my hotel room and home so he’ll be in the vicinity during Haven too. I look forward to meeting you face to face my friend~
    All Things Heart and Home

  4. the balance thing…as i told you we are a family where dad’s home base has been home for a long time…so best definition of balance i ever read was that it’s not like a teeter totter perfectly balanced in mid air. daily balance is an illusion (& a destructive illusion). it is more like being in service for a season of time; days, weeks, months then balanced by being at the feet of Jesus soaking up His refreshment for a season of hours, days, weeks. serving then receiving, serving then receiving. this really helps me and then i have to be strong and tell everyone to leave me alone with my Jesus.

  5. Laura, love shows in your family! I know this is a journey with twist and turns, but God has you in His loving arms! I think it’s wonderful that you are having a great summer and your girls are spending time with their Dad; many new memories are being made. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Blessing to you all!

  6. Laura,
    Somewhere I read:
    “When you are unsure about the future, keep doing what is in front of you with all your heart and with love, and what is meant for you will find you.” I truly believe that and I know in time you and Dana will know which road you are meant to be on. You may even have to travel a few before you both know whole heartedly you are on the one that is right for the two of you. As it is said “life is a journey, not a destination,” enjoy the journey and trust in yourselves and know that He will lead you where you are meant to be.
    With love,

  7. I know the journey ahead will be exciting and amazing and full to the brim and overflowing with joy.

    This I know.

    Because you are both…..truly following your heart.

    Happy day to my favorite rock star family!

  8. So nice of you to share your updates with us! It sounds like the New Hampshire trip was very refreshing. Sometimes going to a new place can give you a new perspective…especially such a beautiful place. How wonderful that your husband is getting to spend so much quality time with the girls. They will always remember that. Take care and stay positive. All the answers will fall into place!

  9. Last August my husband had a mental breakdown and had to be hospitalized and is currently receiving ECT treatments which render him undable to work. Our income was cut in half when he stopped working last September. First I panicked and thought, we’re going to lose everything! Then, being very financially savvy and frugal to the point that I could make a nickel work like $10, I started cutting back the unnecessary and the luxuries we’d taken for granted. Now, almost a year later, we are still barely making it but we are MAKING it. The financial struggle has put a strain on our marriage but we are holding firm. My husband struggles daily with depression and the feelings that he is not pulling his weight and supporting his family and that his wife has to support us all now. We have children and it’s been especially hard on them to understand why we cannot buy them anything, including new school clothes. No vacations, no eating out, no movies, nothing. We have had to give up everything we loved to do so that my husband can recover and get better. And he IS! Slowly, but surely, he is improving every day. Will this be forever? No, I don’t think so. But we have learned a lot through this experience. We have learned that less is more, time is precious, family comes first, and that we CAN do it. I think God allows us to have struggles and moments of being unsure so that we learn to appreciate what we have and gain strength from it. I’m not sure of what you and your family are going through but whatever it is, know that God is there with you and you will make it through too. ((hugs)) Karen

  10. Sounds like a dream! I would love to have my husband home everyday. In fact, it’s a goal of mine to have us both work from home. A few years ago my husband quit a very very well-paying job because he had to work some saturdays and he wanted to spend that time with the kids. It’s a blessing to be married to a great father. Congratulations!!!

  11. Thanks for sharing and updating us on the goings on! It seems like you are a very supportive and happy family unit. That is your strength and you can do anything together!


  12. Hi Laura, I’ve been blogging more than a year and yet for some reason have never visited your lovely blog. You know how I found it? My husband and I are getting ready to retire (as soon as we can sell the business) and are thinking about rv’ing around the country in search of our ‘forever home’. I thought about starting another blog journalling our adventures and calling it ‘Finding Home’ so I searched to see if it was taken and that’s how I found you!

    I can only imagine how you must feel now with all the changes you’re going through. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man, and everything will work out.

    I will be at Haven and hope to have the chance to say ‘Hi’.

  13. Change is so hard and scary sometimes. You have one another and that is the most important thing…..hold on and enjoy your time together and in NC…one of the most beautiful States….

  14. Sounds like you are right where you are supposed to be, geographically and mentally Laura. You and Dana sound like a good team. So wish I could go to Haven but it’s just not in the cards this year. I am thinking about taking the family to Alabama in Oct. though! Enjoy NC – we are headed to Myrtle Beach the first week in August. Never been, but looking forward to it.

  15. Laura I read this the other day and I have to say you are an inspiration in so many ways!! You have a sweet a family and time just flies. I worked corporate world and once we had our first baby right after her first birthday I stopped working. I know it must’ve been a hard decision, but the fact that you had that peace and knew it was time and gave him the time to know on his own..goes without saying – it was time. I’ve always believed that when one door shuts another opens. Blessings to you and your family! Enjoy your time together…it goes by way too fast!!

  16. Very inspiring, both your posts (I just read the first one you wrote about this topic). I can relate…my husband was a public high school principal for 11 years . Our kids were very young and it was sooooo hard. He was gone so many nights every week, then exhausted every weekend. Last school year he changed jobs, no longer works 12-14 hour days! Yes, he took a pay cut, but so worth it! Our 3 kids are in elementary school and he is now able to spend much more time with them. Thank you for sharing your story here…best of luck to you and your family!